Success Mantra – Sustainable Positivity
Recently I had very good conversation with one of my friend. A positive guy, who was little frustrated. He made one statement which motivated me to write this article.
Until now, I have taken it positively, but no more!
This was not the first time I had heard this statement, in some way or another we have heard this many times. Even sometimes we would have thought this. Both in professional life as well as personal. Below could be few examples.
Personal Life: I have done enough but he / she is not giving attention!
Professional Life: I have done so much for my company but now, it is getting difficult!
So why it happens? Despite of having positive attitude in the beginning why it collapse?
To answer this, would like to highlight what is positivity? I thought and searched a lot but here is the simple answer which I got!
Positivity is the frequent experience of pleasant emotions. Some of the most common are: joy, hope, gratitude, interest, serenity, pride, amusement, love, inspiration, and awe. (source)
So definitely it does not mean that you will not have any negativity, it only mean that your positive feelings are dominant than negative!
There are lot of materials available to inculcate positive thoughts, but very few I found which can tell how to sustain it. My little experience, I can list 2 points which can help a lot to bring sustainable positive behaviors.
1. Change your attitude towards others
Most common problem of getting negative waves is in our thinking, we think we will be positive if something positive happens with you. Or someone admire your efforts.
There is no harm in thinking people should follow you, and yes it is positive as well! But surely not sustainable, as your positiveness is depends on others!
Rather it will be more, if you positive to think how can I do something which will make them to follow; and with consideration even if they don’t follow I will find path to improve myself!
Yes, do it for yourself and not for others
2. Manage your expectations
There is no harm in expecting from others, surely.. But upto what extent it is questionable!
Lot of people gets demotivated because they were not able to manage there own expectations. They expect too much and with thinking they have done a lot so they deserve it! But we forget to accept one fact, we are not the only factor which defines behaviour of others! They might have some other problems or priorities which are more important to address so you have not being considered or neglected. That does not necessary mean to be deliberate and believe me mostly it is not!
While having expectations, you also need to be more patient.
And even if it does not happen as you were expecting, you need to learn to communicate effectively with true positive attitude!
And not to mention, surrounding yourself by positive things helps a lot!
Your comments will be really helpful!